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My daughter’s favorite word is, “MINE”! It was one of her first words. This is unfortunately a four-letter word for toddlers. Or you’d think so after the looks I get from other Mommies.
The word is really taken out of context because she doesn’t truly understand what she’s saying at this point in life. She wants it. She doesn’t understand possession or ownership like I don’t understand Chemistry 101. Other than the fact that she wants it, whatever it is, to belong to her. It doesn’t matter if it does belong to someone else, she doesn’t understand that yet and so that is why I’m here.
My role as a Mom is to help her understand this. Whether it be through examples and/or consequences. As with any learning process, it will take time to accomplish this goal. For the moment, I’m trying to make her say, “Please,” instead of “MINE”. It just sounds more polite and I almost want to give in.
I am loving the LOVE & LOGIC Parenting technique! I don’t have it all figured out, it is a work in progress for my family. BUT I haven’t yelled at my daughter in 4 days! This may sound sad that 4 days seem like a long time not to yell at a child but I will admit I was getting out of control. Like I’ve said, I needed the regrouping corner more than my child.
I didn’t like who I was becoming, so I made a drastic change for the better. I really thought that I could handle my 2 year old without a good parenting technique and both of our bad behaviors’ were surfacing and then spinning out of control.
Our troubles didn’t start until the birth of my son 5 months ago but then again I should have started LOVE & LOGIC with her as an infant and then it could have been second nature.
I recommend learning this ASAP. It has been a wonderful addition to our family and I already see some results. It’s so easy for me to be a happy Mom when I have guidelines to follow. I will be the first to admit that I needed help and there is nothing wrong with that!
Without the help from my daily (hourly) prayers, tips from family and friends, I would surely be spiraling down a horrible path towards bad parenting. My kids don’t deserve a cranky Momma! They need a loving, caring, sweet mother who helps build them up. I intend to do this every moment of the day. It is my purpose now.
Obstacles will be thrown at me constantly all day long. It is my job to take a deep breath and approach them one at a time. Her struggles with “MINE” is merely a struggle we’re having at the moment. It will pass in time with proper guidance. Hopefully, by giving her more control in her life with many choices to make throughout the day, she won’t feel compelled to be so closed-fisted about toys and possessions.
Posted on June 26th, 2007 by admin
Filed under: Parenting
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