We’re starting Love & Logic Parenting. I’ve got some CD’s and I’m trying to absorb all the content. I need to stop being in battle all day with my 2 year old. I had 3 close friends recommend this approach…so here goes.
Instead of yelling, I would use empathy for discipline. For example: Uh-Oh, That’s so sad, I guess it’s time to practice quiet-time.
They say that consequences are the best way to teach your child discipline and responsibility. For example: When her toys are left out, I would ask if she wants me to pick them up or if she would like to clean up. If she forgets to clean up, I would hide them away until she notices their disapearance. Then I would ask if she wants them tomorrow or the next day.
The point is to give them the responsibility by giving them choices all day long. Even if they are silly choices as long as they are safe for everyone.
I’m personally thinking that she’s too young to understand but they say the sooner you start the better. I feel maybe I waited too long because she’s 2 1/2 now and out of control for my standards.
Yelling, spanking, the naughty chair (or as we call it= the regrouping corner) weren’t working in this household. I needed the regrouping corner more than anyone else in the house but my kids wouldn’t let me stay in it for 27 minutes. Wouldn’t 27 minutes of alone time be refreshing?
It’s best to have all the guardians use the same approach. This seems really easy yet stimulating for everyone.
I’ve caught myself all day long with a yell in my throat desperately yearning to makes itself known. I have a long way to go personally. I’ve always considered myself pretty relaxed but I’m constantly fighting anymore. My first response to ill behavior is yelling. I can say over and over again to stop but I think this new approach will help guide me away from it.
My husband and daughter also need to learn the skill. At least if we learn this now it’ll be second nature with our son.
Posted on June 20th, 2007 by admin
Filed under: Parenting
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