hello and thanks for your questions!!!
how do our kids build loving and lasting friendships with each other? my sister and i tormented each other our whole childhood and even now in adulthood but we love and trust each other more than anyone else. i think siblings are brought on earth to torture each other to prepare us for the real world and Plus, boys are a different mold! They are seriously a different breed! they are full of energy and isn’t it fun to pick on someone and see what the reaction is going to be? (not for us but kids love it). just yesterday my daughter squirted the entire bottle of lotion all over her room. for her, it must have been so much fun to watch it spray and drip everywhere. even though we’re going to have to get a steam cleaner out here–the room does smell lovely. they don’t realize the consequences of an action until they learn through trying. discipline is key–not to sound harsh.
believe it or not but you are not alone! my daughter is mean to her little brother all the time. my neighbor’s kids do the same thing too. it seems most people i’ve known throughout the years have struggled with one or more of their siblings. i wouldn’t worry about them too much now because they are building a bond even if we can’t see it.
my daughter was a little princess until i brought my son home from the hospital. for the first few months–i feared for my son’s life (and my 3 pound’s dogs’ life). she throws herself on top of him, grabs him by the neck and drags him, kicks him and pushes him.
I really believe in LOVE & LOGIC. it is a wonderful disciplinary technique. you can start it at any age. when my daughter is misbehaving–all I have to say is, “uh-oh, looks like you need some quiet time in your room…that’s so sad. you may come out when you are nice” what’s amazing is–all of her toys are in the room but just because she’s having “time-out” per say, she is mad and really understands.
you don’t have to explain what they did wrong. the less words- the better.
don’t give them warnings. just lovingly take them straight to their rooms. but don’t discipline them for every little thing.
please, check out their site. www.loveandlogic.comthey have CDs, books, DVDs for all age groups. this has change our lives for the better. i’m not going to lie, i have my bad days.
i really feel they are bonding with each other everyday. it may surprise you soon that he might be very protective of her. i would like to read up on building friendships amongst siblings and get back to you because that is really important. Praying helps. Sadly, it’s not my first response to trouble but it should be.
the baby blues stink! i can’t admit to having them after birth but i had depression during this past pregnancy. i didn’t want to go outside. i didn’t want to talk to anyone. i felt uncomfortable in my own skin. i didn’t know what i wanted. i just wanted to be in bed all day and cry.–now my blues consist of what you said. being stuck with kids all day is hard work and you NEED a break! my husband will say, “you have a car–pack up the kids and go somewhere!” i scream in my head–that’s the problem–i need to get away from the kids not bring them with me. he’s spends 8 hours a day working at his job just being himself, you and i spend sometimes 24 hours working and it is mentally and physically exhausting. especially, when we’re constantly breaking up fights and worrying if our children are safe from the other one or the house (my son is getting into everything). we are loving guardians protecting the home who deserve time off (once a week or more). if you’re married–leave the kids with your hubby and take some YOU time. you don’t have to spend money–just the act of being alone is (cliche) priceless or go out and have girls night with friends. this will help tremendously. this is your prescription- now go get it filled and take one at least once a week!
thanks for coming to my site. i love talking mommy stuff. i hope you can find comfort in something i’ve said. good luck!
Posted on November 26th, 2007 by admin
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